The Prince of Hearts

source: Prince Of Persia movie trailer

A favorite movie of mine is The Prince Of Persia: The Sands Of Time (2010).  The storyline is similar to many fairy tales where the prince rescues the princess from evil.  The prince is handsome, dashing, strong and eventually wins the heart of the princess.  This type of movie is always a win with women.

I think women look for this type of character in men from early childhood, as young as ten years of age.  We look for Prince Charming or Valiant to come riding up on his white horse, sweep us off our feet and carry us to his castle.  As we begin to seek out relationships we compare men to the image of a storybook prince.  Not a bad guideline, but is it realistic?

What should we look for in a man?  What are the values and characteristics that make him a true prince?  Here are some of the values women cherish in a man:

  • Chivalry
  • Friendship
  • Honesty
  • Truthfulness
  •  Humor
  •  Manners

I would also add respect and cleanliness to this list.  We expect total perfection and nothing less from the man of our dreams.

I think we can find some men who almost fit this image but I would dare say that any one man could fill this description totally.   However, there is one man who walked the earth that did fit all of the requirements of a prince.  Jesus.

The people who walked in darkness have seen a great light.  For those who lived in a land of deep shadows – light!  …. He’ll take over the running of the world, His names will be Amazing Counselor, Strong God, Eternal Father, Prince of Wholeness.  His ruling authority will grow, and there’ll be no limits to the wholeness he brings.  .. He’ll put that kingdom on a firm footing and keep it going with fair dealing and right living, beginning now and lasting always. Isaiah 9: 2

And Jesus is still reigning from his throne in heaven:

God set him on high at his side, prince and Savior, to give Israel the gift of a changed life and sins forgiven. Acts 5:29-32

It isn’t fair to hold any man up to this standard of perfection, but it is admirable for a man to want to live according to the standards set by Christ Jesus.  Christ protects, provides, comforts, nurtures, listens, is loyal, has  a great sense of humor, is truth, chivalrous, a friend, very pure (clean), and respectful.  A man who follows the examples of Jesus will become a reflection of wholeness that is attractive to women.   The old saying goes, “no man is perfect.”, it is true.; but, a man who looks to Jesus as his guide in life will mature spiritually to encompass the essence of what really counts in life:  love.

What is love? 

I Corinthians 13 states that love is long-suffering, kind, doesn’t envy, not prideful, is chivalrous, unselfish, controlled, loves truth, is strong and never fails.  This is what we value, as women, in men.  It is the heart of a prince.

It doesn’t matter if a man is wealthy, wise and attractive if he fails to demonstrate these traits in his life.  His heart is empty.  And, if his heart is empty there is coldness within his soul.  Women cannot find warmth from his being to kindle the fires of her romantic heart leading to a happily ever after.

There are men who do not own mansions, who do not hold prominent roles in society and who are not built like Mr. Universe, but nevertheless, they are a prince at heart.  They understand what is truly recognized as manhood and strive to live it out before others.

I don’t know who I am speaking to regarding this message, but I believe that there are still men out there whose heart’s desire is to become the image of the true Prince.  Looking for Prince Charming is fruitless, he doesn’t really exist.  But, there are men out there who have the heart of a prince and waiting for him is truly worth it all.

Blessings,

Dee

Loneliness

I never imagined that such love existed!
(source: drweil.blog)

Loneliness is a state of mind. I believe everyone goes through times of feeling alone.  In my beginning with the battle of loneliness it was very difficult.  I had no purpose in my life, only to feed this non-ending and ongoing pain within me;  constantly feeding it to keep it happy.  I took myself down avenues, that when it comes to my memory for ministering,  it becomes arduous to think upon it because of the depth of sin I endured not be lonely.

This is something I have dealt with all my life.  BUT God came to me in such a powerful way in my life.

He took me into my closets of hurt, rejection and pain.  He walked with me through every room.  It was almost more than I could take, BUT God”s hand was tightly around mine.  Never for a minute did I not sense his presence with me.  He created a healing in me that only he could do.  I realized that as each room was cleaned more peace and purpose came to me.  He opened my eyes to see what “TRUE LOVE” was; and his love broke my heart in a million pieces.  I never imagined that such love existed. 

God’s love can only come to you when you decide in your heart that this is what you desire; when the loneliness speaks so loudly in your heart and mind that you lose all direction and purpose.    I know that life can bring so much destruction and pain that somewhere along the line we lose our heart and direction.  We develop patterns that lead us down avenues that cage our heart and cripple our life.  But I know that Christ came to give life and deliverance from all those handicaps with which satan binds us. 

In Matthew 11:28  Christ states:  Come to me, all of  you who are tired and are carrying heavy loads.  I WILL GIVE YOU REST.

I had a young teenage girl come to my home.  As we were talking, she shared with me about the attempts the youth in her school were taking to try to end their own lives due to the loneliness they felt.  She told me about a certain young man who was so lonely that he wanted to take his life.  She asked me, “Do you think it is a sin to take your own life in this situation?’  I sat and asked God to give me insight to share with her.  I believe God impressed upon me to tell her that, “God is life.  He gives life.  So do you feel that God would give permission for someone to take their life if he is the giver of life?’  She sat and thought about it and it brought peace to her question. 

Loneliness can be devastating in anyone’s life.  God came to bring life and this is what the lonely need to hear.  We hear and read the word of  God but we forget to plug into the power.  We forget that God’s word is LIFE. 

God brought me out of years of loneliness.  I learned that he is always walking with me.  He is always talking to me.  I cannot depend upon my brothers and sisters to fill the void inside me.  I realized God filled me to overflowing with the mind-shaking, life-shattering realization that God is LOVE,  He is LIFE.  In the moments when I feel like I am alone, God reminds, “I am here with you.”  This comes because I have surrendered all my life to the “Giver of life”. Life still hurts at times, but I know that at times …. this is life.  God never promised us that we would not experience pain and struggles.  In fact this is the reality:  we will experience them each and every day.  But when we realize the hand that we hold is GOD’s, we can run.  We can be joyful knowing that this is REALITY  —  that God is LIFE and LOVE!!   We can put away loneliness and instead take security and fulfillment.  We can  fill our tanks with these wonderful gifts from God to us His children. 

Do not be afraid or discouraged,  for the Lord is the One who goes before you.  He will be with you; He will neither fail you nor forsake you.  Deuteronomy 31:8

I don’t know about you, but this makes my heart jump up and down inside and outside because we have VICTORY over loneliness and anything that satan would try to cage us with. 

God has a great need for you in his Kingdom. 

Remember:  God has too much for you to do for you to remain handicapped. 

Blessings,

Erme

Who’s keeping track?

Recently my husband was suited with a heart monitor to track activity and stress levels.  He was instructed to write down hourly activities such as running, nap, and watered plants, in a journal. I guess this was to detect any signs of stressful interactions in his lifestyle. I teased him occasionally about his journal entries. “What are you writing now? Is it about me?” 

I was dusting in his den the next day when I came across his journal.  I had to look! Come on, you wouldn’t want to know what was on it? Of course the entries were simple (I should have known, we live a simple, bordering on mundane, life):

  1. 10:00 am Went for walk
  2. 11:30 am  Had lunch
  3. 12:45 pm Nap
  4. 2:30 pm Went to Home Depot
  5. 4:00 pm Worked on Bathroom Shower

Yes, pretty basic.  I thought, this is good cause there’s no “discussion with wife on my eating too much salt”.  Gotta tell ya, he does tend to add salt to everything.  Probably why the doctor is having him wear the monitor.  Although, I don’t think the doctor is going to catch that by his entry.  I can see the doctor’s note, “this guy, by the results recorded,  gets excited about this lunch”!

In the following days, he would occasionally tease me back by saying, “I’m writing that down in my journal!”  I would respond, “What?  That was nothing.  Are you keeping track of my wrongs?”  I had no idea if the entry would reflect a difference in heart activity, but just the same it was a nagging thought.  What if the results showed that I was the cause of harmful heart palpitations in my hubby?  I imagined myself being called into the doctor’s office to discuss my husband’s condition.   How mortifying! 

All kidding aside, do you ever feel like, no matter what you do, some people will just not let you forget your wrong doing?  It’s like they keep a tally or record somewhere that has your name on it in bold letters.  From time to time, they bring it out to remind you of your error.  Remember when you said  this?  You thought it was in the past, gone, erased and forgiven.  It’s frustrating to say the least. 

“Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude.  It does not demand its own way.  It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged”. 1 Cor. 13: 4-5  They key words are it (love)  keeps no record of being wronged.  Now, I don’t expect everyone to remember that “in love” they are to keep no record of wrongs to me or I to them.  I can remember quite vividly sometimes what wrongs I have suffered, and the injustice of them all.  And, they did not come at the hand of someone who loved me (Ouch, that hurts to admit. How can anyone not like me?).  The thing is, maybe I did wrong someone, and if I have apologized or repented in my own way (and prayed for forgiveness from the Lord) shouldn’t they forgive and forget? 

I am glad God has written that verse in His word.  I remember it when I want to bring up a wrong with my hubby or someone else.  Even if they have never asked forgiveness, I must forgive them because true love commands it.  I have asked for forgiveness many, many times for wrong thoughts or actions and each time I know God has forgiven me.  Matthew 6:14 states, “if you forgive those who sin against you, your heavenly Father will forgive you.” (NLT)  It far more valuable to me that my sins be forgiven than to hold onto a record of a wrongs towards me.  I cannot stand to have anything barring me from His presence.  In His presence, I am complete and able to live life above this chaotic world in peace. 

I urge you to forgive others, even if they do not ask you for it.  Harboring wrongs or keeping track of them only eats away at your heart and peace of mind.  There’s so much more to life than to live in the past.  Like my old Virginian pastor used to say, “you can’t drive forward by looking in the rearview mirror”!  Pray about it and leave it with Christ.  He hears you and will help you through the pain until you are walking forward once again.